October 19th: Joy

Today is my daughter’s birthday and I was thinking back to the day she was first born.

Some people say after a divorce, that they made a huge mistake…

that they should have never married their mate…

And during a difficult time in a person’s life, I can understand why they may feel that way… But… imagine all that would be lost.

I think of my daughter, how much I love her, how she is grown into a beautiful young woman, and I am so proud of her and her life accomplishments…

And I am grateful that my husband and I had this child together and spent so many years enjoying our time with her.

I have learned that every person I connect with in life and every event in my life… yes… good and bad…. leads me to the joys that I have today.

Without my love and commitment to my husband… I would have never had the gift of my daughter’s love.

Without my daughter’s love, I would not have the joy that fills my heart today.

“Dear God, help me to remember that there is joy in the smallest of things, that there is wonder in every life event.”

13 thoughts on “October 19th: Joy

  1. Ok I just LOVE your eloquent choice of words. Although my marriage was abusive, he cheated on me (with dozens of women), I could not imagine my life with out my girls. I am grateful for my life. Thank you for sharing.

    • That is always difficult. It hurts to feel betrayed by someone you love but when people act in a way I find unacceptable… it reminds me how I DON’T want to act!

      There always seems to be a lesson in the pain but I’m so sorry you had to go through that…

      I’m so glad you have your beautiful girls! πŸ™‚

  2. I often wonder if children who still have parents who are together hear stories about times that their parents shared but divorced children do not? Or, at least, not the same stories that would have been told had things turned of differently? Perhaps, it is something that a divorcing parent should attempt to provide ~ the happy stories of when Mom and Dad met or other ‘happy’ stories of shared moments?

    • I think you are right Kathryn.
      My children, now young adults, still love to hear stories of how my husband and I first met… or stories of when they were young and the fun we had as a family.
      Shared history is so important in families, friendships, larger social circles.
      I always hope that once people get past the pain… they can find a way to share the joy. πŸ™‚

  3. MY girls are every ounce of their father, and I couldn’t thank him enough. Your read my mind today, thank you as always. xoxoxo

  4. I’m looking forward to feeling those moments of joy again. I did not have children but I do know that I can bring — remembering good times, friends, family who care– continually with me and in my thoughts as I move on.

  5. Thank you , Jason.
    I was looking back at the posts .
    Just passed one year since divorce was final. I’ve found a modicum of peace. And you’re right – some much to experience as life moves forward again.
    Hope and at times now-joy- have returned . Pain is subsiding πŸ™‚

  6. I have three friends and family members born this day …
    And I have found more joy… In many things πŸ™‚
    The 19th is a big day πŸ™‚

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