Lately I have been catching myself repeating old patterns of behavior.
I have been allowing someone very dear to me to break promises, break boundaries, and let me down over-and-over again.
At first, I was very understanding.
I know my friend has a hectic life and that…
Everyone gets busy
Everyone can end up overwhelmed and unable to keep commitments.
But, as time continued on, and promises of change were made, but the behavior continued to be repeated, I was suddenly reminded that my friend was not the problem in this situation… I was the problem.
Because I was choosing to accept behavior that was unacceptable to me.
I was allowing myself to be hurt… to become resentful… again-and-again.
I can’t keep doing the same thing and expect the outcome to magically change.
I have to change my behavior and the outcome will change accordingly.
I must be willing to address the issue, even if confronting someone I love, can be very uncomfortable to do but…
If the friendship is valued… I believe it will weather the storm and if not… my Higher Power is trying to tell me that it is time to move on with my life and find people who do value my friendship and who are willing to work on creating a relationship that is acceptable to each of us.
“Dear God, help me to set clear boundaries. Help me to stand up for myself when needed.”