In the past, when I would fall in love with someone, I would completely lose myself in the intensity of the emotions.
Overwhelmed with joy and passion, I would rush blindly ahead without looking at the reality of the situation.
It felt so good to be loved, desired, attracted to another person that… my feelings would override my logic and soon… as the intensity wore down… I would be in a relationship with a partner that was not a good match for me.
Lost in the fantasy of what he could be…
Lost in the fantasy of what we could be…
My entire life would change to “chaotic” and I would most often end up in a care-taking relationship, where my own needs were waylaid, while my mind stayed firmly focused on my new “man of potential.”
Today, I know that I must rein my emotions in and take the time to look at the reality of things before jumping in both feet.
Is this new partner on the same life path as me?
Does he have the same core values?
Has he proven to be trustworthy and loving with partners in the past?
If I don’t look honestly for “red flags of behavior” the reality is… that I could end up repeating an old familiar relationship, from my past, with a new partner.
A relationship that did not serve me well and would not serve me well in my new life.
“Dear God, help me to see the reality of things. Help me to be guided on this new path.”