Sometimes I catch myself playing out patterns of old behavior with new partners.
Something familiar in a new partner’s tone… may trigger an unwelcome response from me, due to a bad memory from my past.
Something familiar in a new partner’s manner may remind me of a time when I was treated poorly by my former spouse.
Most often, this person has done nothing wrong… nothing to deserve my negative response and usually, this new person has no idea why I suddenly became snappy… or distant… or sullen.
It is then that I must step back from my reaction and examine my feelings, acknowledge the trigger, take a moment to explain and apologize to my new partner for my outburst and accept that the past is the past.
If I continue to react to past events in my new relationships, I will not be able to maintain a loving and kind manner which my new partner so richly deserves.
If I am unable to move through my emotions and away from the past, then maybe I am not ready to move forward in a new relationship.
“Dear God, help me to be kind to those I love. Help me to let the past remain the past and move forward with respect to my new partner and my new relationship”