Today, someone I love dearly was lamenting a temporary “break” in a friendship.
They continued to find a way to keep coming back to the topic repeatedly; at the distress of everyone else in the conversation.
Everyone was very loving and patient… willing to help soothe our friend during their crisis but…
We had given our input numerous times.
We had acknowledged her grief, her concern.
We had offered up our own experiences, our strength and hope, but to no avail: she just wanted to repeat the same conversation over and over again… unwilling to hear us… unwilling to move from where she was stuck.
Finally, I said, “I know how you feel. I have felt your despair… I understand what you are going through… but you are spinning a broken record… allowing your mind to dwell where it will only continue to cause you pain. And… you are unable to move on because your focus is not where it should be: on you. I hate to see you waste so much energy on this… you are so dear to me.
Everyone was quiet for a moment before my friend said, “Yes but if I just had the chance to do it over again… if he just…”
At first, we thought she was going to “spin the record” again… still unable to move from her position but then, she stopped herself from continuing, she smiled and said, “I’ll try.”
Unfortunately, in life, we don’t get to magically go back in time and “do something different.”
I was reminded, once again, during this conversation, that we only have today.
We must start from where we are right now, and do things differently from here… and it begins with acceptance.
“Dear God, help me to accept life as it is today. Help me to embrace change and find spiritual growth in the process.”