Today I know that I am not willing to give up my serenity over trivial concerns.
There was a time when one unkind word, one misunderstanding, one inappropriate action could rob me of a day’s worth of serenity.
I would dwell over conversations that had ended in confusion, fret over situations that had taken a bad turn, or stew for hours on end over a perceived wrong done to me.
One day, a good friend was listening to me fuss about a specific situation that I was unhappy about and they said, “How will you feel about this a year from now? Will this have any bearing on your life? Your future? Is it that important?”
What I was going on about would be forgotten in a matter of days.
Why waste one moment of my precious serenity on something that is not important in the long run?
I must let go and make serenity my first priority.
I must keep my head in the joys of the day and not waste precious moments on what I cannot control.
“Dear God, Grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.”
Dear D –
The Serenity Prayer brings peace of mind , and also the opportunity to reflect on how another year is passing.
The nightmares going through the divorce and the sadness of the marriage ending , are now gone.
I saw an old friend last week , he was in town for a conference ; we have known each other for 45 years. We had a chance to catch up on all that has transpired over the last few decades 🙂
When you go through a divorce you feel so alone – this could never happen so horribly to someone else – how awful am I ?
Well , he’s wrapping up divorce #2 , and for me it’s been two years.
He’s happy , relaxed and open.
He smiled and said ” I didn’t dare try to ask you out when we were kids … Not that it’s a bad thing , but I can see you’re in an “unapproachable ” mode right now – I’m sure it’s from what you’ve been through. I’m going to visit a girlfriend at xmas , see how it goes. I hope soon you’ll be able to see that people want to be with you too.”
I LOVE IT! “Unapproachable” mode. hahahahahah Yes… he gets it. Keep me posted on this new development. I’ve decided to start the dating meditations as a follow up in the New Year. Just in time for YOU I see…. big BIG HUG. D.