There are some people in our lives that seem to want to pick a fight.
They know us well.
They know our triggers.
They know just what to say to get a reaction.
During my divorce, my husband on his bad days, would say something and hope that I would “take the bait.”
If I did, it validated his reasons for leaving and it left me feeling shameful that I had behaved in an inappropriate manner.
After many months of personal work, I learned that with practice, I could choose not to engage.
Today, when someone tries to get me to “take the bait” I let it go, and over time, they realize they cannot get the reaction they hoped for from me… and they stop trying to provoke one.
If I truly don’t want to get into a series of emotionally draining ups and downs with another human being…. an argument that will only cause me to wear myself out, and will in no way help me to evolve as a spiritual person… than I must practice daily… not taking the bait.
“Dear God, help me to see that a person’s words and actions say more about them… then about me. Help me to disengage with empathy and compassion.”