Sometimes when we don’t know what to do… it is best to step back and carefully… attentively… watch the situation unfold before choosing to make a decision.
Often, I can not be sure if I can trust a particular person, or a particular situation, until I have had time to study each closely.
Sometimes, a person might appear to be most wonderful. They may put their “best foot forward,” doing particularly impressive things aimed at pleasing me but over time, they may not be able to keep this charade up and the true person… shows up.
This “true” person may not be worthy of my time and attention.
This “true” person may not be honorable in their intent.
There are times in our lives when we run into people who do not have our best interests at heart and often, by taking the time to observe their actions over the course of several weeks, possibly even months, we then see that this person is not someone we want connected to us through a long-term relationship.
Sometimes, situations can seem exciting… a great plan… a way to get ahead… but once again, if we step back and observe… make sure that we have all of the details.. understand the logistics… we may see that this “great plan” is in no way “great” for us.
Observing is a way of assessing a situation logically.
Observing is a way to step back from emotion, waiting to react, before choosing with calm clarity what to do next.
This does not mean that we sit in “limbo” unwilling to make a decision for fear we will make the wrong choice.
Observing means that we watch, we wait, and after a specific amount of time that seems reasonable… we act.
“Dear God, help me to be patient and observe the world around me. Help me to choose wisely when creating lasting relationships with others, and searching out new and interesting opportunities.”
I have trepidations at times since I’m rebuilding my life. Who to trust, how much of my feelings to express? Great advice DD ! I need to be vigilant but also open to all the new things that are happening and new people I will meet.
This is just what I needed today. Thanks!
I have a tendency to “fall” for people in friendships and love relationships… I don’t want to pull back or be ungenerous… but I have had to learn to pull back, observe… and then decide if I should move forward in a relationship. Time reveals most everything. 🙂