Sometimes change comes to me whether I like it or not:
A loss of a beloved friend or family member.
The end of a relationship.
These moments in time where I cannot control the situation are difficult… often painful… but I must mourn the loss and accept the change… so that I can move on.
But other times, I can see that change is necessary in my life and I must take action, even when it may be difficult to make a decision to do so.
I have never wanted to hurt someone through change, yet even when I strive to follow my spiritual path, or take the higher ground in my decision-making, it still may happen.
I cannot control what other people may feel or how they react when I make a decision that I feel is in my best interest.
What I know is… is that if I make my decision, with the best possible intentions, using a clear mind, and a kind heart, then I know that I have done what I honestly believe is right for me and anyone else involved.
I may need to take a break from a relationship for awhile to gain clarity regarding my emotions, or actions.
I may need to cut back on work if I’m struggling with balance and suffering in health, or in emotional well-being.
I may need to take an inventory of my life… and correct behaviors that I feel are not honest in intention.
Change is not about being selfish.
Change is about a reckoning… and understanding that something is “off” in my day-to-day life and it is time for me to make what I believe are positive changes to correct it.
Although change may be difficult for me, and for those I love in the short term, by being fearlessly honest about my need for change with those connected to me, I believe I am making the better choice over time.
“Dear God, help me be fearlessly honest yet gentle and kind, when expressing my need for change with those I love and care for. Help me to make my decisions based on a sound spiritual foundation and not out of ego, pain, anger or fear.”
A whole year of what seems like nothing but change! And it is hard- friends and family, and new people in my life have expectations. I have many decisions to make — seems like each day, but I am glad to have the freedom to do so.
And, I am so glad that those around me care.
I will be spending the day with some of my closest friends and their family — they have been my family more than anyone else this year. For that, on top of a 25+ year friendship, I am so grateful.
Happy Thanksgiving, D.
I’m so glad that you had a good crew to spend Thanksgiving with… having loved ones during the holidays will be so good for you while you go through all of this change! 🙂