Today I found myself waiting on others.
I had a big project due and my colleagues, were all delivering their work last minute: work I had to have to complete my assignment.
Even though I had contacted each person numerous times over the last several months… many of them chose to procrastinate until the very end.
Luckily, I learned something over the years that has helped me in the midst of just this type of last minute chaos: Accept that their will be delays and plan accordingly.
Having experienced delays with many of my colleagues before…. I made sure to give them a “final” deadline that was really a week ahead of my “own” true final deadline.
In that way, I was able to protect my sanity, give myself time to finish my project and review it calmly, before finalizing it and turning it in.
When I find myself in a situation where I must depend on someone that has proven at times to be unreliable, I must expect delays and set up parameters to take care of my own emotional, spiritual, and physical needs. No matter what type of relationship, professional or romantic… I must expect delays and create boundaries that keep me from chaos.
“Dear God, help me to find patience when all patience seems to have failed me.”
Well, chaos can be all around at times and I’m sure I contribute my brand of it in certain situations too!. I am probably “Type A” in old terms and having thrived on deadlines and seeing things accomplished, I will always be learning to be more patient — and sometimes I have to say I’ve failed. It’s a work in progress!
Well that is true too! I do still enjoy deadlines… and seeing things accomplished…. I don’t mind that exciting good chaos of creating something and getting it done… it is relying on other people that I can’t trust that causes me to lose it! 🙂