After my husband left, I found that my divorce had filled me with an immense grief.
I missed so many things about my relationship.
I tried to look at the logic, the truth: that “we” didn’t really fit together anymore as “life partners.”
That we would both be better if we moved on, worked on our behaviors, and walked a new path…
but it just wouldn’t work.
I would miss one good moment we had shared and forget the ten bad ones.
Sometimes, logic can’t carry us through.
Sometimes we have to put logic aside and walk through our problems with acceptance.
Each time I caught myself thinking about the past, fantasizing about what “had been,” I allowed myself to enjoy the moment, relive my happiness, and then I said a silent prayer and thanked God for giving me that time with my husband. I accepted that THAT time had passed.
Acceptance is the bridge that carries us over our river of grief.
I found I had to mourn the loss of what I loved, but accept that it was now over and that I would find wonderful new memories on the other side of the bridge.
“Dear God, help me to accept life as it is. Help me to let go of the fantasy of the past and walk bravely into my future.”