I have had to accept many things in my life:
The deaths of those I have loved.
Illnesses that were hard to overcome.
And though all of these painful moments first consumed me with despair, I learned to move forward by accepting each of them.
At first, I struggled but as my emotions calmed I found acceptance through grace and joy.
I accepted the loss of my loved ones by accepting that death was a part of life.
Yes, many were taken away from me too soon but… the joy that they brought to me and many others while on this Earth was something I could not overlook and left wonderful memories that could never be taken away.
I accepted my divorce in the same way by focusing on the gifts of the union: my two beautiful children.
And the illnesses I had to overcome? Well, the word “overcome” says it all. I am still here today surrounded by many loving family and friends who walked with me during my painful trial.
To say things like “I wish I’d never known him… or I wish I’d never been married… or I wish I’d never suffered” is like saying… “I refuse to love, to open my heart, because then I might have to feel pain.”
Life is full of pain and suffering. Acceptance is key to living. I would never give up the time I had with my loved ones to save myself the pain of their loss. I would never give up my marriage and lose the gift of my children. I would never give up my illnesses because they taught me to live in the day and to be thankful for my good health.
I accept that pain and loss may come my way but if I walk bravely forward in acceptance and faith, I will be greeted with many more gifts when I reach the other side of my heartache.
“Dear God, help me to accept life on your terms. Help me to see the beauty and joy in all things.”
This one is perfect for me today. With the loss of my parents and my divorce – dealing with it was familiar, since I’ve gone down the road of grief before. Then I had health issues that were frustrating and discouraging.
But I love what you wrote. That is what I’ve been trying to do – feel acceptance and peacefulness with the beautiful blessings I also have. Thank you, dee dee!
I always wish you well, Judy. Our paths have been so similar. xo