My divorce was very difficult for me to accept.
I had been with my husband many years.
We had experienced life at its best and its worst.
We had raised children, buried parents, struggled with financial burdens, and rejoiced in financial gains.
We created a world together and when we separated, it was very hard to let the dream of what we were… what we could be… go.
I have been asked by many people since, “Do you regret the time you spent with him? Do you wish you could take it back so that you wouldn’t have had to feel the pain of divorce?”
And the answer has always been and always will be, “No.”
How could I regret the birth of my children?
How could I regret the joys I have witnessed as they have lived and grown into the truly wonderful people they are today?
To give up all the pain I have experienced would mean I would also have to give up all the joy:
The togetherness that we shared as a couple, the history of our lives during that specific period of time: a moment that will never be known by anyone the way it is known by my former husband.
I do not regret the love he gave to me.
I do not regret the love I gave to him.
I learned many things from our time together, both good and bad, and now I use those experiences to help my own grown children navigate their relationships. I offer my experience, strength and hope, my extensive time in a marriage to be a guide, a voice of reason, an advocate to help them when they struggle with those they so dearly love.
“Dear God, thank you for the gift of marriage. Thank you for allowing me to experience true joy, through giving myself honestly and openly to someone I loved.”