Though my divorce was a very painful experience, it taught me a lot about when it was appropriate to react and when it was better to let go. In my marriage, I often reacted immediately instead of calming my mind and waiting to decide how important the problem really was. I would constantly get worked up about things that wouldn’t even be remembered 24 hours later. I allowed my resentments, my emotions, to constantly rule my words and actions. A good friend, at the time, told me to take just a moment before reacting and say to myself, “How important is it?” before calling someone out. I was amazed at how many times I was being nit picky, judgmental, really just saying something to say it or using my words as a way of holding my illusion of control. I started to see my character flaws appear in each scenario and I didn’t like it. Today, I still sometimes react without thinking but more often than not, I hold my tongue and wait to allow time and clarity to set in before speaking.
– “Dear God, help me to let go of the little things and stay focused on more important matters.”
Daily Divorce Meditations 
I can relate a lot to this. I’m more patient before I speak these days and it wasn’t that way going through the divorce .
I was so irked, tired, and sad that I went ahead and said things that weren’t necessary. I think it was my last ditch effort of trying to ” get the last word in” even though my ex was the master of “that”.
Now, with those I care about, or even if I must respond to an email from my ex ( which should be rare to never now that most details are done), I am training myself to pause and reflect on whether my comments or opinions are necessary or even helpful! 🙂
Patricia, just found out my daughter was robbed in Costa Rica. The person came into her room while she was sleeping and stole the computer that was right next to her head. How important is it? Not at all… so glad my daughter is alive…. and that the computer was the only thing they took. Isn’t it amazing how life puts things into perspective? I’m so glad my child is safe.
OMG … Thank goodness she’s fine and safe. Incredible isn’t it. ?!!
And what’s important ? Wow -YES!!
I’ve done so much traveling in my life that I can relate with some past experiences — the world is “smaller ” and even crazier now.
Costa Rica- A wonderful place to experience and may she continue to be safe and have fun.
Thank you, Patricia… I told her to not let that experience to “rob” her of her vacation!
Reblogged this on Missives by Michelle and commented:
This falls in line with my post from yesterday. We must stop and think before we speak!
Absolutely, D. She’ll be fine and it’s a wonderful place to explore …
My best to you and your daughter
Thank you! Patricia….. and thank you Michelle for reposting…. 🙂 D.
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Today I practice staying in my spiritual hulahoop, minding my own business, and nothing needs an immediate response, let me get back to you on that. have a god blessed day.
I love the spiritual hulahoop image! 🙂 D.