There was a line I heard once in a movie where the character said, “Banishment is hell for one who knows his rightful place.”
I remember being struck by the force of that statement when I was in the middle of my divorce: Feeling that I, the wife, had lost my rightful place in my husband’s life and was now banished from it… an outsider where I was once… the queen.
It was hell.
The character in the film ends up going through intense despair and distress until he is able to find a way to emotionally accept the changes in his situation.
It is not easy to let go of someone we love.
It is not easy to go from being married to separated, to divorced.
It is not easy to feel that you have been “demoted” from a significant other to an acquaintance.
But the only way to move through the pain and despair is to accept things the way they are today and let go.
Holding on to what is out of my control only adds to my heartache.
I must continue to put the focus back on me, my spiritual footwork, and have faith that my Higher Power has a perfect plan for me.
“Dear God, help me to accept things as they are. Help me to find peace in the moment.”