When I was first going through my divorce, while I was still reeling from my painful loss, it was easy to get into a “Why me?” mentality.
I felt that I was being victimized, abandoned by my husband, left to all of the day-to-day responsibilities of the family, while he went off to start his fresh “new” life.
It was horrible to feel so powerless… such a lack of control… and for me, a person who had always prided myself on being strong in emotionally trying situations, it was unsettling to suddenly feel so weak… so helpless.
But soon, with the help of trusted mentors and a lot of spiritual footwork, I began to move forward and away from victim mentality.
It started with my acceptance that I had no control over my soon-to-be ex-spouse and that the only thing I did have control over were my own actions and ideas.
And then…. I stopped waiting for things to “change” and started moving forward in my own life.
I kept my mind firmly fixed on the prize: the future well-being of myself and my children.
I did everything I could to become spiritually, physically, and mentally sound once again.
By taking on an active role in my emotional recovery, I soon left my victim mentality behind.
Today I know, that I am strong enough to allow myself to be vulnerable, and to learn and grow from the experience.
“Dear God, help me to move away from my painful past. Help me to find progress in the smallest mental shift from victim to survivor.”