The other day I was talking to one of my closest friends.
We were having a conversation about fear when he turned to me and said, “I can’t imagine you being afraid of anything.”
I was surprised by his comment and for a moment pleased.
It was nice to be regarded as someone secure enough… strong enough… to not have fears but the truth is… I have many.
Some of my fears are substantial: worthy of my concern.
Others… are just like anyone else’s… silly little things that might make another person laugh.
But sometimes fear is a good thing.
Sometimes fear shows up when we know, deep in our soul, that we are making a decision that goes against our greater good.
Fear can be a warning that we are moving down the wrong path, that we have strayed in the wrong direction, and it can help to indicate when we should stop, and seek experience, strength, and hope, before moving forward.
I have learned that sometimes it is good to listen to my fear. That my fear lets me know loud and clear, that I am making a decision that is not in my best interest.
“Dear God, help me to see your path. Help me to stay the course and listen to my fear if it is a warning that directs me away from pain, trouble, or conflict.”
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Read the good words from Miss Wood!
The biggest challenge I have with fear right now is being ‘me” ( and not “me+spouse” ) to put myself out there to interview and also meet knew people . How to trust my instincts in these new encounters. No risk no progress I suppose…
You will find your way. It takes time, I viewed it as “couples” detox. Do stuff that you like to do that maybe you couldn’t with your ex. Just try to open your mind to new possibilities.
Yes…. I remember feeling like my “rightful” place as “wife” had been taken from me… and that was strange… it took me awhile to get used to just being “me” again 🙂 but as I took the time to heal, and grow… I found out who I really was and what I really wanted… and then… that is when I met my new man who compliments who I am today me perfectly 🙂 We have been together a very happy eight years… and I would have never been ready for him if I hadn’t gone through what I did. 🙂 D.
I’m so happy for you! I see this as hope, and inspiration too. Thank you.
I was single and dating for five years before I met my current man… funny thing? He lived eight houses away and just around the corner… but as I said in my comment… I would NOT have been ready for him any sooner than I was… 🙂
Ah, fear. It is a constant companion lately. Fear of the upcoming move, fear of what my husband will do next, fear that I won’t be able to hold it together. Yesterday as I was in the midst of our 13 year olds birthday party, I was informed by American Express that he had frozen my credit card. Fear. I was frozen. And I gave into the sadness and tears. I am praying to my higher power to take my fear. Take all of it God, as I cannot handle it.