When I was going through my divorce a friend said to me, “All you need is time. Time heals all pain.”
Besides thinking… at that moment… that this sentiment was totally cliche, I was also incensed that my friend thought that I would just be able to “hold” my pain until the passage of time “removed it.”
But then… time did pass.
And my friend was right.
Time removed my pain.
And since that day, I have shared my story with others.
I listen to their pain, I understand where they are at… because I have been there too.
And I say, “Once a friend told me something that seemed so cliche, so unacceptable, but it was the truth… and I’m about to share it with you.”
Time does have a way of putting life into perspective: putting pain and strife in their rightful place.
Time does move us through.
We may not always be ready to listen… to hear “All you need is time.”
But, time calms the worried mind and allows reason to see the truth of each trying situation.
“Dear God, help me to accept that the passage of time will bring me comfort from my pain.”
Time… And moving through each day.
There are days when I can’t imagine or foresee when the pain and memories / flashbacks will ever be over but your words are consoling.
I’m banking on time being a healer.
My divorce will finalize in a couple of weeks. Yet it’s only been a few months living completely separate lives.
Sometimes it just feels surreal to be moving on.
It has been such a short amount of time… just a couple of months…. you are still grieving over the loss of your marriage and the loss of your dream… time will move you through… as I have said before… it sounds so cliche… but it really is true…. 🙂 D.
You’re right – things heal with time : pain , anger , grief , and learning to take care of one’s “self”.
And I’m coming up on two years this month for the divorce being final.
And there’s no anxiety 🙂
Well hold on for dear life, while we wait for time to do it’s magic. I also thought, WHAT, do you not see I am drowning here, there was a lot of pain but three years later I am finally ok. Twenty years gone and having to star all over. Blessings do come disguised as divorce, the waters will be calm once again.
I was just talking about that today with my mentor, Robert. Blessings DO come disguised as divorce. My life today is more authentic and filled with empathy for others. D.