In the grand scheme of things… how important is it?
This is what I think to myself now when I catch my thoughts becoming agitated and unruly:
How important is it?
Is this a major life crisis that I am currently worked up about or… a minor problem that will pass into obscurity over time?
How important is it?
Arguments, hurt feelings, misunderstandings can often be put aside if we step back, and look at the problem and decide… how important is it?
Does this problem really need to be solved or am I just wanting to fuss and vent?
Is this conversation an honest criticism with someone… that may help them to grow.. or am I just being snotty and judgmental?
Is this something that really needs to be talked about at this very moment, or is it something that can wait?
My life is full of decisions and I must choose each day to decide “How important is it?” before I open my mouth to speak.
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“Dear God, help me to be quiet and calm. Help me to think about my situation and decide if it needs to be discussed or if I can let it go and move forward towards more important matters.”
Daily Divorce Meditations 
I have a bad habit of allowing chatter on so many things.
Turns out 99% of what I’m ruminating about is minor!
Trying to train my mind more – save that energy for the big stuff ! ☺️
I’m still so ultra sensitive about my feelings and others’ that I still tend to “go there” solving things in my head .
Same time next year:)
That question holds true …
How important is it ? Most of the time …the answer is “not earth -shattering”.
Meditation has helped me move away from tying to solve or control outcomes but be there if I need to be.
And most worrying had been a damaging activity – for me worry equals dwelling on events , results that I can’t determine or help with by trying to take responsibility .