After my divorce I found a great freedom in my new life.
The freedom to really find out who I was and what I wanted my life to be.
For so many years, I had been attached to my husband’s ideas, expectations, and values.
It wasn’t that I didn’t have my own: it was just that so much had been shared, or compromised as we worked our way to a common ground in our relationship.
When we separated and eventually divorced, I began to look at what I wanted in regards to the spiritual person I wanted to be… the kind of life I wanted to now live.
I was able to take time and really think about what mattered to me the most… what I needed to be a complete and happy person and then… draw people towards me who were on the same path.
Once I realized that my new found freedom was a gift that I had received from my Higher Power… a chance to rebuild my life with a clear view of my own values… I was able to live my life to the fullest and appreciate the freedom that such a painful experience brought to me.
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“Dear God, thank you for the freedom to rebuild my life into one that I am proud of. Thank you for reminding me that every day is fresh… and that I can start over at any time… and live the life that you want for me: one full of love, joy, happiness, and your grace.”
Daily Divorce Meditations 
I love what you wrote. I have just begun the process of separation and divorce. I feel like a slave that doesn’t know what it is to be three. I was married 31 years. I feel so grateful for beginning the rest of my life now in a beautiful way. I agree with you 100%!
Thank you Judy.
I was with my husband for 20 years. I couldn’t even have imagined that my life would turn out the way it has… the changes have been wonderful and miraculous. Just keep moving forward through your ups and downs and know that I am here for you every day! 🙂
I couldn’t have appreciated this post as much a few months ago as I can now.
So beautifully said!
Feeling freedom has been a gift that I now feel, and actually recognize.
It eases the pain and makes me feel hopeful that my life is moving forward. I even pushed myself to go see people, to meet some new friends last week, and was stunned to find that I actually can make new friends.
The whole world is still really out there.
I know it sounds almost silly or cliche , but I had insulated myself horribly just to cope with the tough circumstances of living in a relationship that was so “broken”.
It is funny how the timing works on these posts. I read some now after writing them, when I go back and look, and it seems I look at them on the day I REALLY need that thought! 😀
A friend asked me the other day what was a major revelation coming through a divorce and being with someone ,since I was practically a kid , for 30 years
Freedom
Independence
Learning about who I am again
Making decisions and not procrastinating
Taking the right kind of risks
🙂
Yes… once you get through the sense of abandonment… the sense of losing a “rightful” place you realize that you now have the ability to rework, rethink your life into what you hoped it would be! So liberating… 🙂 D.