I often thought that if I accepted life “as is” that I was basically choosing to be complacent.
But today I know that to accept life “as is” means that I do my best to make my life and the lives of those around me better while also accepting that life will have moments of deep pain and despair and… that there is nothing that I can do to change that.
However, I can be present for these moments.
I can offer my love and compassion.
I can do what I can to make these moments more tolerable for those around me.
Accepting life “as is” means that I choose to live in reality and do my best to learn from it and walk through it.
Accepting life “as is” means that I choose to let go of the fantasy and embrace the truth in the moment.
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“Dear God, help me to accept life on life’s terms. Help me to walk bravely through pain and despair and offer comfort to those in need.”
Daily Divorce Meditations 
I know I read this last year but didn’t “get it” at that time.
So caring and self-actualizing.
As I have started to heal , I believe those around me have also.
When I look at the divorce now , and moving on , my grief done days goes out to our family members . Many so close to me as well as him are still trying to accept all this. They know I’m there for them always but it’s actually harder on some than I ever imagined.
There are so many phases to this transition.
You are absolutely right… so many phases… isn’t it funny how this thought hits differently each year? D.