When I was married, I often asked my husband to help out but when he did… I would sometimes criticize his work and end up completing the task on my own.
I see now that this was damaging to our relationship for several reasons:
I let my husband know that I did not value his contribution.
I made him believe that he was incapable of doing any task as well as I could.
And… I set myself up to never ask for or receive help because no one could live up to my standard of work.
My perfectionism was not only hurting the person I loved, it was also helping to keep me overwhelmed, weary, worn, because I refused to share the burden of my load with others who were willing and wanting to help.
Today I know that my perfectionism is a character asset and a flaw.
My perfectionism ensures that I will give a job my “all” my best work.
But… my perfectionism also gets in the way of my own spiritual growth and it keeps those around me from feeling needed and valued.
It is in my best interest, to let go and let others participate in my life.
I must accept help and I must accept that they are completing the task as best they can and praise them for their work.
“Dear God, help me to let others in. Help me to step aside and allow others to share my heavy load.”