Going through a difficult divorce taught me so much about what I wanted in life and reminded me how much the little things matter.
What I missed most during our break-up were all of the small niceties that let me know that I was wanted… cared for:
A quick I love you at the beginning of a busy day…
Or maybe a short call saying that I was missed… in the afternoon.
Coming home to find a meal cooked… or the house cleaned.
Sharing a laugh… an inside joke between the two of us.
These were the things I pined for so much once I was no longer in my marriage.
The little things.
But the pain of those lonely days after my divorce became a valuable teacher. The moments I cherished, remembered, longed for reminded me of how I wanted to behave in my future relationships: considerate and thoughtful on a daily basis… taking the time to share the little things with the one that I loved.
“Dear God, thank you for the daily kindnesses. The small moments that bring great joy.”