Lately I have been struggling with difficult choices.
In my day-to-day life, when it comes to making decisions at work, or giving others advice… I excel at being decisive and direct.
But… when it comes to my heart… when it comes to love… I often still struggle.
My divorce left me wounded and so, when I find myself confronted in a relationship with a difficult choice to make, I’m not quite sure how to react:
If I react with haste: I berate myself for not being patient.
If I don’t react or set boundaries: I berate myself for being a people-pleaser, a doormat.
I am amazed, after all of this time, that I am still triggered by the painful experiences of my past.
Today, when faced with difficult choices, I ask myself the following things:
Is it good for me?
Is it good for my family, my love ones?
Am I making this decision out of fear?
Have I set aside a significant amount of time to give careful thought to my choice?
Have I talked it through with friends I trust? Looking at all angles before making a decision?
Will there be consequences to my choice and can I accept them?
Difficult decisions should not be made in haste.
It is important to not be rash when it will affect my own heart and the heart of someone I love.
“Dear God, help me to be calm as I work through my feelings related to a difficult decision. Help me to trust in my own internal compass and your guidance.”