Sometimes I get into a place where I am focused on the “all about me” of life.
It happens… where my problems, needs, wants, concerns, seem to become more important then anyone else’s.
In my marriage, I must admit, that there were many times when my husband’s needs were not met due to the simple fact that I was resentful about a time when I felt he had let me down.
Maybe it was my youth that stopped me from taking the higher road.
Maybe it was the fact that our relationship seemed out of balance to me… always tipped in his favor… and so I was unwilling to bend.
Maybe I was just intensely focused on myself and believed that my focus on our life together, our children, gave me the right to ignore his individual needs.
But today, I know that sometimes I must sacrifice my needs for the greater good of the relationship.
I know that when someone I love is under duress, being pulled in multiple directions, feeling that their time is worn thin, that they are unable to re-charge, that maybe I need to put my own wants aside and allow the person I love to take a moment and just breathe.
If my own needs are not pressing… not life-threatening, or paramount to the relationship…
If this is not a repeated pattern of emotional neglect…
then can’t I take the spiritual high ground, and make the sacrifice for someone I love?
Wouldn’t I want them to do so for me if I was emotionally and physically worn and in need?
“Dear God, help me to see the world from all perspectives. Help me to step back and make sacrifices for those I love.”
I think there were times when I had to compromise but I realize now that I was blinded by feelings and my ex’s personality – and remained willing to make sacrifices, not compromises, beyond my own sense of self and values.
Yes… there were times I did that as well….