Just the other day I was talking to one of my mentors.
I was sad about a relationship that hadn’t gone the way I expected it to go and feeling the pain of the loss.
Disappointed I said, “I just wish it had lasted longer.”
She looked at me… and in her most loving motherly tone said, “Welcome to reality… don’t we all wish for that.”
And isn’t that the truth?
Of course I want wonderful moments to last forever but that is not how life works.
Life is endless change and we all suffer losses great and small…
A lost marriage.
A lost loved one.
A lost friendship.
The pain that I suffer during each significant moment is first grief and then… pain due to my refusal to accept the reality of the situation, admit the loss, and let go.
I cling to what is familiar… I cling to the memories of what once was.
But today, I know that I have to work to accept change and look forward to what life will bring me.
I have many more moments of unexpected joy on the horizon if I accept today, things as they are, grieve my losses, and look forward to my future.
“Dear God, thank you for bringing joy into my life and help me to accept change. Help me to trust in your path and know that I will find joy again.”