When I was young, I did not believe in timing.
Timing to me was an excuse to get out of something.
Timing was a way to keep people at bay.
Timing meant that “I wasn’t really invested in the relationship.”
Whenever I heard the words, “I’m sorry. It’s just bad timing” I would emotionally shut down.
Today, I know that timing does play into relationships.
There are truly incidents of bad timing and I have to accept that this does not mean that someone loves me less, or is trying to slight me in anyway.
The truth is… no matter how much I may not like it… the world is not “all about me” and everyone in it does not operate on my specific time frame.
I myself have now said on numerous occasions to people I truly love and enjoy spending time with: “I can’t. I’m sorry. The timing is not working out for me.”
Our lives don’t always run in sync with each other.
I know that I must be patient and accept that if I am valued in a relationship, and if I truly value that person as well, there will come a time when we will be able to be together again.
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“Dear God, help me to accept that life does not run on my time frame. Help me trust in my Higher Power’s time… and that when it is right, I will find a moment to connect with my loved one once again.”
Daily Divorce Meditations 
When I look at the past year, “timing” was the key to the negative revelations , and the positive outcomes.
It was early last year that events and lousy conversations led to divorce , having to sell the house came along soon after , it just so happened the market and the ability to get things done incredibly quickly seemed to fall into place , & finding a place to live with people I care about – there happened to be open room with a friend just as I was getting ready to leave .
I have to wonder if “the universe” helping me see what I needed to see, aided my journey out during I time when I could barely think , get out of bed , and not cry with grief all the time.
Now I see timing that can bring joy as I learn to make new choices , and even when I’ve met people – I feel very careful as you were speaking about – the timing will need to be right for all involved to grow a friendship or a relationship . I hope I’ll learn to recognize the best course to take . 🙂
You will have steps forward… and steps back…we all do 🙂 That’s part of being human…. and you will recognize the best course and what feels right to you… as you continue to move forward and heal 🙂 D.