After my divorce I found it hard to trust my instincts when it came to romantic relationships.
I was sure that everyone who wanted to date me had an agenda and that agenda was to hurt me.
It was an extremely skewed point-of-view but, I had been so caught up in the pain of my husband’s decision to leave, that I could not look at it from any other vantage.
I was trapped in my own broken logic: my husband had lied to me, left our marriage, and if I let anyone else in… they might possibly do the exact same thing.
It is always good to have boundaries after suffering a terrible hurt.
Being cautious, careful, are good qualities to have but… to be controlled by the fear of what “might come to pass” is not living life:
It is hiding behind past experiences and refusing to bravely walk into the future.
Today I know that I have to trust until I have been given sufficient reason not to trust.
And if I am unable to do that… I must consider that I am not ready for a romantic relationship… and that I must continue on with my spiritual footwork until I am able to approach a new romantic relationship with an open mind and an open heart.
“Dear God, help me to set clear boundaries in all of my relationships but help me to have trust so that my boundaries do not become walls to keep the people I love at bay.”