When I was going through my divorce, I was struggling constantly with my pain and my despair.
The people I loved would listen to me as I worked my way through my feelings but often times, found it hard to do so, because they wanted me to be over my marriage… out of the pain… moving on and away from a relationship they felt was not worth my time or attention.
I understood that they did not like seeing me suffer and I understood that it was difficult for the people I loved to listen knowing that they were unable to fix it for me but still… I needed them to listen.
Today, I remember how kind my friends and family were to me during such a trying time in my life.
They showed me tolerance when emotions made it difficult to do so.
It is important for me to remember this when I am the sounding board for a friend or loved one that is struggling with a difficult issue.
Though I may want to move them through the problem quickly, because I feel that I cannot bear to watch them suffer anymore, it is not my place to do so.
I must have tolerance and accept that:
They may need more time to work through their problem…
They may need to repeat their story to me numerous times to find clarity or acceptance of the reality of their present circumstance…
They may need to know that no matter how broken or flawed they feel in that very moment… that they will not lose me… as they have lost someone else dear to them.
I must be mindful and tolerant of their needs and thankful that I am there to offer solace.
“Dear God, help me to be tolerant when being present for those I love. Help me to remember to have patience and compassion.”