Recently, I was fussing to one of my trusted mentors about a relationship.
I was going on about how I thought my friend should do this and I thought they should do that and that if they would just behave the way I wanted them to… we wouldn’t be having any problems… when she stopped me and said, “Oh… so everyone should act and react on your time table? It’s your world and everything should be done as you say?”
I paused, at first a bit taken aback, when I saw the smile on her face and realized how ridiculous I sounded… how very rigid… when I always had proclaimed that I was so “open minded.”
The only person I have the ability to control is myself.
I cannot make people “jump” to my beat.
A relationship is bound by trust, love, and mutual agreement.
I have to be willing to accept the people I love “as is” and not bend them to fit into my world. Together we have to find a compromise that works to strengthen the relationship so that each of us feels valued within our commitment.
“Dear God, help me to be understanding. Help me to let go of demands and control and work towards being fluid, fair and balanced.”