I have never liked the idea of surrender.
To me, it always sounded like I was giving up.
Even in war, to surrender, means to admit defeat.
How could I surrender?
I had spent my whole adult life working on my marriage.
How could I surrender to my divorce?
How could I give up on my relationship?
What I found was that surrender is not about giving up, it is about giving yourself over to a trying situation.
It means that you accept that this is what the situation “is.”
With surrender, comes serenity.
When you surrender, you let go.
You stop fighting.
You stop the war.
It doesn’t mean that you lose the battle.
It means that you stop struggling against what you are fighting.
Surrender doesn’t mean you stop doing “the footwork” but that you let go of the outcome.
I found if I did not surrender myself to the situation, I was only fighting a battle against myself, a battle of self will.
I was my own enemy destroying my own serenity.
“Dear God, help me to surrender my problems to you. Help me to let go of the outcome and accept that what I need, you will soon provide.”