Often when I was dealing with my own trying situation I found it hard to keep perspective.
It was so easy to get caught up in my own pain and despair.
One day, my sponsor said to me, “I see that you are suffering, but the quality of your problems are so much better today.”
At first, I felt angry that someone seemed to be minimizing what I was going through but as the day moved on, and my thoughts grew calm, I realized that my sponsor was right.
In the days when my husband was living in his addiction my problems were significantly worse:
Would my husband survive the night?
Would my husband find recovery and be there for our family?
Would my husband be able to work through his guilt, shame, and pain and continue to abstain in his sobriety?
Today I was dealing with our divorce.
Yes, it was a horrible problem to have but I had to look at the reality of the situation: things could be much worse.
We were going through an inevitable break-up but my soon-to-be ex-husband was clean and sober, working a 12-step program, and providing support for our children as he walked through this difficult time.
I was fortunate as well:
I had my health, my children, my home, and a job that brought me joy and financial security, as well as my Al-Anon program to offer me experience, strength, and hope.
Perspective makes all the difference when you are struggling with what “is.”
If you can find a foundation amidst the chaos…
If you can find perspective when you are full of despair…
Then you can focus on what needs to be done to move your life forward.
“Dear God, help me to keep perspective during this trying time. Let me look honestly at how far I have come and how much I have learned as I have walked my path.”