To this day I still have a very hard time keeping boundaries.
My tendency has always been to give too much of myself to everyone and leaving me in the end: worn-out and frustrated.
Part of me has always thought that the more I gave; the more people would know that I truly loved them but…
often times, my friends and family were left feeling that they could never do enough to compare with what I had given them or… in debt to me and resentful.
There is nothing wrong with being a generous person unless your generosity is being used to “please” others.
Over the years, I have learned to watch my actions and pull back if necessary and work on my boundaries.
If I feel myself become anxious, stressed, or helpless after giving too much…
or by accepting actions from another person that seem totally unacceptable to me…
I know that it is time to stop, assess the situation, and re-establish secure boundaries.
Having boundaries does not mean that I have to be “rigid” with all of my actions and rules.
Having boundaries lets others know what I will tolerate, how I am willing to be treated, and helps me to build self-respect and set an example for those who love me.
“Dear God, help me to be generous to others, while staying true to myself.”