It was hard for me to let go of my husband when we first went through our divorce.

In the beginning, I so wanted to reconcile, that I would find just about any excuse to create contact with him.

And… because I wouldn’t “let go” I ended up putting myself through a lot of unnecessary pain.

A friend once said to me, “Don’t go looking for pain” and I learned, over time that they were right.

Each time I missed my husband, I’d call him on the phone and unfortunately soon learn that he was much farther along in the “moving on” process than I was…

He would be friendly, but busy with his own life: his new friends, his new activities, and not anxious to spend his time communicating with me.

I would be left hurt and feeling abandoned.

This is when I truly began to understand my friends’ phrase: Don’t go looking for pain.

I needed to let go of my soon-to-be-ex-husband and focus on my own life.

I needed to begin accepting the inevitable: that we would no longer be a couple and I could not find happiness through contact with my former spouse.

I needed to let go of the pain, and walk towards my new future where I would, over time, find happiness and joy.

“Dear God, help me to let go. Help me to see this trying situation as a blessing in disguise: A fresh start to a new and better life.”