The other day, I had a moment where I felt the urge to get into an argument with my ex-husband.
He had said something to our son about me that seemed unkind and unnecessary.
I was hurt… angry… and I wanted a chance to harm him with my own words for causing me pain.
As I drove around the corner in my car, and saw him standing with our son in my driveway, I felt my anger rise and could barely wait to park the car and let him have it.
But then… my spiritual growth kicked in… and I was able to sit for a moment and let that entire scenario play out.
How would my anger help my son?
Would it show him how to behave appropriately in a relationship?
Would it make him comfortable watching his mother be sarcastic and hurtful towards his father?
Would I stand out as an example to my child of how a mature adult, working towards taking the “moral high ground,” should behave?
I chose to calm my thoughts and pray for my ex-husband’s well being.
I then got out of the car, opened the door of my house, walked straight in, and did not engage with my ex-husband for the rest of that day.
The relief of “not getting into it” in front of my child, of setting a good example soothed my soul.
There are times in life when something must be said… and there are times in life when I must practice the habit of self-control.
Today, I choose to think before I act.
“Dear God, help me to choose my battles wisely. Help me to have self-control in my words and actions when it is for the greater good of all involved.”