Even though I have been divorced many years, I still find that there are moments where something my ex-husband says or does becomes an emotional trigger.
The triggers have diminished over time, but when they do occur, I am always caught off guard:
These triggers make it extremely hard to control my temper, or stop a verbal outburst against him.
I have learned though, that it is best to hold my tongue if possible or I will be the one in need of making an amends.
And why would I be the one making an amends if his behavior is so offensive?
Not because I agree with, or accept what he says or does but… because I no longer want to be reacting to his behavior or acting in a manner that is not true to my spiritual path and if I choose to engage inappropriately… then I am the one that will need to make an amends.
I know today, that these triggers are actually reminders of what I still need to work on in my own life: Issues I need to let go of and new boundaries I may need to be brave enough to set.
I must work always, to communicate in a way that represents my true, kind and compassionate self, even when an emotional trigger arises.
“Dear God, help me to think before I speak. Help me to be calm before I react.”